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PublisherRowman & Littlefield Publishers, Incorporated

ISBN-101538182246

ISBN-139781538182246

eBay Product ID (ePID)3064617545

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Number of Pages224 Pages

Publication NameWhat Are We Really Fighting About? : How to Transform Conflicts Into Conversations

LanguageEnglish

SubjectLove & Romance, Marriage & Long-Term Relationships, Internal Medicine, Conflict Resolution

Publication Year2024

TypeTextbook

AuthorLisa Brateman

Subject AreaFamily & Relationships, Medical

FormatHardcover

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Item Height0.8 in

Item Weight15.1 Oz

Item Length8.8 in

Item Width5.8 in

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Intended AudienceTrade

LCCN2024-022364

ReviewsBrateman, a psychotherapist, offers recommendations for couples who have become stuck in deeply entrenched patterns. She distinguishes productive fighting from the kind that leads to emotional gridlock. Old grievances like betrayals have to be put to rest. Understanding must be the goal, rather than a fervid commitment to being right or maintaining a sense of superiority. In essence, the needs of the relationship have to come before one's own. Brateman discusses the kind of manipulative behavior that gives rise to petty fights and which includes unremitting criticism, deliberate distortion of meaning, and weaponization of insecurities. Couples are frequently unaware of their own emotional triggers, which may have to be teased out. The author has a few underlying themes: a willingness to renegotiate is the hallmark of a healthy relationship, sexual needs and desires do not always follow a straight path, and boundaries are essential. Brateman interweaves her narrative with real but camouflaged examples from her therapy sessions. Her concise layout and practical advice will likely help many couples., Born from over twenty years of experience with countless couples, Lisa Brateman's deep wisdom is distilled into this necessary, compassionate, and practical guide. With invaluable insights and real-world examples, What Are We Really Fighting About? offers a clear roadmap for any couple seeking to navigate the complexities of love, sex, money, family, and all the challenges of modern coupled life., Brateman, a psychotherapist, offers recommendations for couples who have become stuck in deeply entrenched patterns. She distinguishes productive fighting from the kind that leads to emotional gridlock. Old grievances like betrayals have to be put to rest. Understanding must be the goal, rather than a fervid commitment to being right or maintaining a sense of superiority. In essence, the needs of the relationship have to come before one's own. Brateman discusses the kind of manipulative behavior that gives rise to petty fights and which includes unremitting criticism, deliberate distortion of meaning, and weaponization of insecurities. Couples are frequently unaware of their own emotional triggers, which may have to be teased out. The author has a few underlying themes: a willingness to renegotiate is the hallmark of a healthy relationship, sexual needs and desires do not always follow a straight path, and boundaries are essential. Brateman interweaves her narrative with real but camouflaged examples from her therapy sessions. Her concise layout and practical advice will likely help many couples. her therapy sessions. Her concise layout and practical advice will likely help many couples.her therapy sessions. Her concise layout and practical advice will likely help many couples.her therapy sessions. Her concise layout and practical advice will likely help many couples., Brateman, a psychotherapist, offers recommendations for couples who have become stuck in deeply entrenched patterns. She distinguishes productive fighting from the kind that leads to emotional gridlock. Old grievances like betrayals have to be put to rest. Understanding must be the goal, rather than a fervid commitment to being right or maintaining a sense of superiority. In essence, the needs of the relationship have to come before one's own. Brateman discusses the kind of manipulative behavior that gives rise to petty fights and which includes unremitting criticism, deliberate distortion of meaning, and weaponization of insecurities. Couples are frequently unaware of their own emotional triggers, which may have to be teased out. The author has a few underlying themes: a willingness to renegotiate is the hallmark of a healthy relationship, sexual needs and desires do not always follow a straight path, and boundaries are essential. Brateman interweaves her narrative with real but camouflaged examples from her therapy sessions. Her concise layout and practical advice will likely help many couples. -- Booklist Conflict is an essential and inevitable part of every intimate relationship. Thankfully, there are intrepid healers out there like Lisa Brateman, who are willing to help guide us through the hardest and most painful of those conflicts. -- Steven Ing, Managing Love Intelligently Podcast Born from over twenty years of experience with countless couples, Lisa Brateman's deep wisdom is distilled into this necessary, compassionate, and practical guide. With invaluable insights and real-world examples, What Are We Really Fighting About? offers a clear roadmap for any couple seeking to navigate the complexities of love, sex, money, family, and all the challenges of modern coupled life. -- Ellen Hendriksen, PhD, author of How to Be Yourself: Quiet Your Inner Critic and Rise Above Social Anxiety What Are We Really Fighting About? offers invaluable advice on how to overcome barriers to intimacy and turn relationship conflicts into connections. Readers will learn to shed their 'emotional armor' and express themselves openly, intentionally, and respectfully. A must read for all couples. -- Andre Sólo, co-founder of Sensitive Refuge and co-author of Sensitive: The Hidden Power of the Highly Sensitive Person in a Loud, Fast, Too-Much World, Conflict is an essential and inevitable part of every intimate relationship. Thankfully, there are intrepid healers out there like Lisa Brateman, who are willing to help guide us through the hardest and most painful of those conflicts., "Brateman, a psychotherapist, offers recommendations for couples who have become stuck in deeply entrenched patterns. She distinguishes productive fighting from the kind that leads to emotional gridlock. Old grievances like betrayals have to be put to rest. Understanding must be the goal, rather than a fervid commitment to being right or maintaining a sense of superiority. In essence, the needs of the relationship have to come before one's own. Brateman discusses the kind of manipulative behavior that gives rise to petty fights and which includes unremitting criticism, deliberate distortion of meaning, and weaponization of insecurities. Couples are frequently unaware of their own emotional triggers, which may have to be teased out. The author has a few underlying themes: a willingness to renegotiate is the hallmark of a healthy relationship, sexual needs and desires do not always follow a straight path, and boundaries are essential. Brateman interweaves her narrative with real but camouflaged examples from her therapy sessions. Her concise layout and practical advice will likely help many couples." -- Booklist "Conflict is an essential and inevitable part of every intimate relationship. Thankfully, there are intrepid healers out there like Lisa Brateman, who are willing to help guide us through the hardest and most painful of those conflicts." --Steven Ing, Managing Love Intelligently Podcast "Born from over twenty years of experience with countless couples, Lisa Brateman's deep wisdom is distilled into this necessary, compassionate, and practical guide. With invaluable insights and real-world examples, What Are We Really Fighting About? offers a clear roadmap for any couple seeking to navigate the complexities of love, sex, money, family, and all the challenges of modern coupled life." --Ellen Hendriksen, PhD, author of How to Be Yourself: Quiet Your Inner Critic and Rise Above Social Anxiety " What Are We Really Fighting About? offers invaluable advice on how to overcome barriers to intimacy and turn relationship conflicts into connections. Readers will learn to shed their 'emotional armor' and express themselves openly, intentionally, and respectfully. A must read for all couples." --Andre Sólo, co-founder of Sensitive Refuge and co-author of Sensitive: The Hidden Power of the Highly Sensitive Person in a Loud, Fast, Too-Much World, What Are We Really Fighting About? offers invaluable advice on how to overcome barriers to intimacy and turn relationship conflicts into connections. Readers will learn to shed their 'emotional armor' and express themselves openly, intentionally, and respectfully. A must read for all couples.

Dewey Edition23

Dewey Decimal616.891562

SynopsisRelationship specialist Lisa Brateman, LCSW offers couples strategies that will help them fight better so they can transform conflicts into conversations, in a book that Booklist says, "will likely help many couples." What Are We Really Fighting About? How to Transform Conflicts into Conversations gives couples permission to fight. Because, after all, everyone does. They fight about loaded issues like financial infidelity and different ways of spending money, sexual infidelity, working too much, traveling too much, fighting too much, not being involved in childcare, interfering in-laws, levels of intimacy, routine sex or boring sex, body image, guilt, secrets, vulnerability, hopes, and fears. And the elephant in the room: Why won't he/she /they change? We're so conditioned to think that all fights and arguments are bad, but that isn't true. This book shows couples that fighting can be productive if they learn to fight in a way that isn't hurtful and shift away from entrenched patterns that aren't working. It's okay to feel angry with a partner and have a heated argument if couples fight with respect, acceptance, and love--and then reconcile differences and disagreements. What Are We Really Fighting About? shows couples exactly how to change sides--to understand their partners' pain, to acknowledge and appreciate their perspective, and ultimately to create an environment where vulnerability is welcome. Many examples of couples who have successfully mastered the art of productive arguments will enable readers to use these techniques in their own relationships. As a result, readers will learn how to fight better by articulating what they need and what is possible, and then find ways to make conflict productive and healthy. Developing the skills to turn conflicts into conversations will open the space for understanding., What Are We Really Fighting About? How to Transform Conflicts into Conversations gives couples permission to fight. Because, after all, everyone does. They fight about loaded issues like financial infidelity and different ways of spending money, sexual infidelity, working too much, traveling too much, fighting too much, not being involved in ......, In What Are We Really Fighting About? relationship specialist, Lisa Brateman, LCSW offers couples strategies that will help them fight better so they can transform conflicts into conversations, imparting that the key to better fighting is to learn when not to fight as well as how to listen and communicate.

LC Classification NumberRC488.5.B6825 2024